Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members by: Sherrie Campbell, PhD

In Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members, psychologist and toxic-family survivor Sherrie Campbell offers effective strategies for setting strong boundaries after ending contact with a toxic family member, and provides powerful tools to help you heal from shame, self-doubt, and stigma. You’ll find the validation you need to embrace your decision with pride and acknowledgement of your self-worth. You’ll learn how to let go of negative thoughts and feelings. And finally, you’ll develop the skills needed to rediscover self-care, self-love, self-reliance, and healthy loving relationships.

Do you have a toxic family member? Do you feel like cutting ties with this person–even as painful and scary as that may sound–would dramatically increase your well-being and improve your life? You’re not alone. Severing ties with a family member can be devastating; and cutting this toxic person out of your life may bring up feelings of guilt and uncertainty–especially if you feel judged by others regarding your decision. Fortunately, you can free yourself from this toxic family member in a healthy, responsible, and liberating way. 

Cutting ties with a toxic family member is a crucial step away from a legacy of dysfunction and toward healing and happiness. This compassionate guide will help you embrace your decision with a sense of pride, validation, and faith in yourself; and provides powerful tools for creating boundaries, coping with judgment, and overcoming self-doubt. 

Whether you’re ready to sever ties with a toxic family member, or already have, this book will help guide you, every step of the way.

Content Warnings: Discussion of emotional abuse, manipulation, verbal abuse, and death of loved ones.

This was an extremely powerful read for me. As someone who cut ties, almost ten years ago, with toxic family members I still experience a lot of guilt and thoughts of “maybe I should re-open those lines of communication”.

Luckily my husband is always there supporting me and asking me questions like “do you think allowing them back into your life would make your life better or worse?” “Would it relieve or add to your stress?” When I stop to think about it and realize that allowing those people back into my life would significantly add a lot of negativity…I realize that I did make the right choice and will continue to do so.

If you’ve never had a toxic family member around—especially a parent who helped shape you into the person you are—you may not realize how controlling and manipulative they are. I just turned 35 and as I look back on my childhood there are still things I’m realizing, about that toxic relationship, that I never saw before. Lies and manipulations that I believed wholeheartedly because what kind of parent lies to their child about important things.

This book discusses all the different steps one goes through when it comes to cutting toxic family members out of your life. It’s not as simple as just cutting off contact and everything becoming great…because these people have trained you to feel immense guilt when they aren’t getting their way. Even fully knowing that the likelihood of them having an “aha” moment—and realizing how horribly they treated me—is completely unrealistic…I still sadly hope for it.

An extremely powerful read that I will be looking back through—in my moments of doubt—to remind myself that I made the best choice for myself, my growing family, and my mental health.

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Growing up, Japanese and Indigenous, it was hard to find books that showcased stories and worlds that accurately portrayed Noelle’s experiences. Fantasy quickly became her main love, as you could really be anyone, anywhere. As the years went on, and technology grew, Noelle was finally able to see more stories and authors that looked and felt like her. Noelle is open to all genre’s though she can mostly be found reading own voice, fantasy, and romance. Ratings: 5 Stars: Completely blew me away 4 Stars: Loved the story but didn't feel completely blown away by it 3 Stars: Liked the overall concept of the story but either had poor execution, had a lot of plot holes, or was written poorly 2 Stars: I struggled to understand the plot, poorly written, or just had really unlikeable characters along with a poor writing 1 Star: Horribly written, major plot holes, or extremely unlikeable characters and plots.

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